12 Honest Questions to Ask Before You Say Yes

Warmth gets a relationship started; shared expectations keep it happy. Before committing, talk openly about these.

Money and lifestyle

• How do you view saving, spending and debt?
• Do you expect one income or two?
• Who manages household finances, and how?

Family and living

• Where will we live, and with whom?
• What role will parents play after marriage?
• How do we split responsibilities and care for elders?

The future

• Children — if, when and how many?
• Career moves or relocation you are hoping for?
• How do we handle disagreements and stress?

There are no perfect answers — the point is to hear each other honestly before big decisions are made.